Important steps to success in counseling

There are four key steps to successfully in the process guidance:

WILLINGNESS

A lot of people need counseling or it will not, or they come for therapy and are not willing to make changes in their lives. they want to change others; they want their environment or circumstances relating to change, but they are resistant to something else to do it themselves. It's amazing how much emotional pain that a person tolerate because they have struggled with the idea of change.

Many people have difficulty with the process of change because they can cause a lot of fear of being outside the comfort zone. For some, just a creature of habit and the known becomes more is better than the unknown.New habits, new methods to do things and thought patterns or behaviors to change take a great deal of energy and time, as well as the courage.

Courage can be defined as "the willingness to do something, even if you're afraid". having regard to the choice of with someone who is brave or someone who is fearless, choose the courageous person.Who without fear can be a danger for you because they will be taking risks that could get you hurt. the person with courage is willing to do what it takes and will probably be more careful because they experience of fear. they are not paralyzed by fear; under it.

Looking for help and to make any changes to your life requires courage. Are you willing to be different for about a quarter of the way to a better life.

MOTIVATION

Some people will relate that they are willing to changes in their lives, but not the drive or the energy to actually do so.They will begin the process by the therapy and a desire for change, but will not make the effort needed to effectively carry out the functions of the process.The first reason why they counseling is that their lives are about to leave in a crisis situation is likely to have deteriorated. they have hit in the legal system, threatened with loss of their marriage or a family; or are at risk of losing their job.In addition, they are in emotional pain about length as long as that their health is an issue.

A crisis situation can be painful, but it may also be useful. in most cases, perhaps things worse before it gets better for the process of change will take place. The Chinese have a written character in their language, which has two meanings. This sign stands for both the concept of hazards and opportunities.So, a crisis can be a life or a disaster but it can also be a means to make life better because it is a motivation for personal growth and development.

Without a strong drive for change, it is unlikely to happen. When an individual has to improve both the willingness and motivation to do this, they have the half of what it takes to succeed in the process guidance.

COMMITMENT

The old saying "quitters never win and winner never stop" in fact says it all.

However, people tend to be impatient with the personal growth process.Many of us want to and we want them now. in any case, those of us who do not have the maturity to suffer delayed gratification will express this urgency along with those huge need in their life experience. However, we who believe that "something worth waiting for", will continue to exist in the desire for change and are the ones who will prevail above the adversity. The counseling process requires this commitment and patience. Without these two characteristics, are going to be a lot of rush into what they think is a viable solution but at the end of the finding that the issue is not really solved at all.

What is the real purpose of the time?The answer is "so that everything doesn't happen all at once".That is why we must not forget stay the course and the sequence of events occur, so that we may make changes over time.

A formula for success, which I use in my practice is also the definition of "learning", as we use in therapy. In this formula is: L-c/t = x E [or learning is a change that over time as the result of experience takes place]. The section "over time" of this formula is crucial for the learning process and is required because the real and lasting changes is rare instantaneously.

The key to success in counseling or all tasks in the life, in addition to the will and the motivation to change [to adjust or learn] is the residence of the course of treatment and realize that interpersonal problems for many years to develop, and it will take to solve it.If you own or development of these characteristics in the early stages of counseling, you'll be three quarters of the road to success.

FAITH

Faith is the last and most important step in creating success.If someone does not believe in themselves or in what they do, it becomes almost impossible to get a project or task.In other words, the more you believe in something, the more you increase your chances of success at it.

The concept of faith in yourself or belief in a process seems to be simple and we can usually agree on the need for it, but there are still people who not because they do not have the power of faith to reach their goals.

One of the reasons why people will be great suffering and lasting emotional distress is that they do not believe counseling or psychotherapy can help them. they've seen multimedia programs that individuals who are trying to discredit or counseling advisers and psychotherapists in an unflattering way. to be able to view Some counseling as well as for the weak and cowardly. each person is missing when they have little or no confidence in the healing process of change.

The successful person understands that the belief in yourself and others to achieve a goal or task they realize that there is a certain amount of confidence must be placed in the availability of a highly skilled, educated health care provider or at least their lack of trust issues with the therapist to explore at the stage of the beginning of counselling. This lack of confidence in others it may be the result of early childhood issues and a primary source of the pain of a person.

For those of us who are believers and possess a belief in God, we have a means to succeed outside ourselves. Harvard University and the National Institute of both undertook a research project to mental health refuting the power of prayer and both studies resulted in a significant impact with prayer in healing. it is encouraging that two secular settings on a per-accident the power of faith can support.

Overcoming adversity and performance to obtain is a culmination of all four characteristics of willingness, motivation, commitment and trust, to a complete chance of success in therapy, and a reasonable objectives that you have in life.

Dr. Kersey has been providing mental health services since 1977 and has extensively in the field of crisis intervention/community mental health services, mental health, Christian counseling, University counseling centers, as well as Dr. in medical institutions.Kersey provides services for individuals, couples, families and groups. He has a keen interest in the areas of co-dependent relationship, adoption, marriage counseling, sexual addiction and dysfunction, as well as the stresses of life DrKersey is a licensed psychologist and exercises since 1987 in Indiana. you can contact him through his Web site at http://www.lifecarecounselingservices.com