I’ve recently had to pick up the pieces after a self help “guru” advised one of my clients that she should ‘follow her heart’ in pursuing a man that she’d had an on-and-off relationship with for the past few years. Her heart was telling her that this guy was what she wanted – even though there was ample evidence that would suggest the exact opposite to an uninvolved observer. But, she took this “guru’s” counsel and threw herself body and soul into making him love her! Bet that you can guess the outcome.
However, if she really was listening to her heart, how could it have turned out so disastrously? The phrase “listen to your heart” is a loaded one. Firstly, we should give none of our attention to what our heads are telling us. Very many highly successful business people tell us that you should go with your gut (another word for heart) and psychology confirms that the normal mind wanders through a mist of random thought – up to fifty thousand of them each and every day.
But, if the head is in a fog, the heart is shrouded behind a veil of much more destructive useless thought – thoughts that have been lurking in the shadows since our formative years – thoughts that the subconscious mind likes to live in – and the subconscious mind is most likely to cosy up to those thoughts if they happen to be negative. In other words, when most of us listen to our hearts, we’re hearing something that’s been seriously distorted by our own conditioning and programming so that we end up believing that we know what will make us happy – which is often a far cry from what is truly best for us.
So, if you want to be certain that you’re listening to your heart, you must get past this veil of toxic thought and the only way to do that – and it’s blindingly obvious when you think about it – is to clear your mind. We all need to clear our mind completely – it will enable us distinguish the wood from the trees! But, more than that, a clear mind is an inspired mind and it is through inspiration that we’re most suitably guided towards our ideal life.
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